By Our Correspondent
National News – A fresh debate has emerged in Nigeria over marriage expectations after Enoch Adeboye, General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, advised men not to marry women who cannot cook.
The statement, made during the May Holy Ghost Service on Saturday, quickly drew criticism from senior Christian leaders under the Ecumenical Synods of Bishops, Archbishops, Apostles and Senior Clergy.
The bishops, led by Archbishop Osazee William, said the guidance reflects personal opinion rather than a biblical rule, sparking wider conversations about values, gender roles, and modern realities in marriage.
Adeboye, while addressing young men, warned against choosing partners based solely on physical beauty or social status.
He stressed that practical life skills such as cooking, alongside spiritual discernment, are important in building a stable home.
According to him, ignoring such considerations could lead to long-term regret, describing it as falling into a “deep trap.”
He also cautioned against excessive wedding expenses and overemphasis on outward appearance, urging moderation in lifestyle and decisions.
However, Archbishop William disagreed, arguing that cooking ability should not be a deciding factor in marriage.
He noted that both men and women can learn domestic skills over time and that character, godliness, and industriousness should carry more weight.
He questioned whether it is scriptural to reject a partner solely based on cooking ability, adding that modern economic realities have changed traditional family roles.
The cleric further explained that many women today are breadwinners with demanding careers, leaving limited time for domestic duties.
In such cases, families can adapt by sharing responsibilities or hiring help.
He emphasized that a good marriage should be built on mutual respect, strong values, and adaptability rather than rigid expectations.
The disagreement highlights a broader societal shift, where traditional views on marriage are being re-examined in light of evolving cultural and economic conditions.
While Adeboye’s advice resonates with some conservative audiences, critics argue for a more balanced and inclusive approach to marital decision-making.
